December is supposed to be a time of celebration and warmth, but honestly, to me it’s most of the time just like any other month, not much different from November or January. For some, it’s filled with social gatherings, shifts in routines, and sensory experiences. For others, it’s business as usual, with no deviation from their daily routines. While some cherish December, for others, it’s a stressful ordeal, the pinnacle of anxiety, and everything in between.
For me, December means lots of social interactions, disruptions in routines, and sensory overload. But it’s also a time for self-discovery, personal growth, connecting with loved ones, and expressing creativity. It’s the perfect month to set clear boundaries while also pushing them a bit to celebrate small victories without overwhelming myself.
More than any other month, December demands preparation but remains unpredictable. I try to plan ahead with flexibility in mind to make December as enjoyable as possible. I’ve noticed how some non-autistic folks who usually dislike planning, structure, and clear agreements throughout the year seem to forget that in December, especially during the holiday season. They already know exactly how the last week of December will unfold, what they’ll prepare for their guests, who will attend, where everyone will sit, how the days will go, and where they’ll spend the period between December 20th and January 2nd (either on a distant island or mostly at home) – and their feelings toward family and community gatherings.
For me, December is a time to know my boundaries, protect them without hesitation, and confidently say ‘no’ to invitations or activities that are overwhelming. It might also mean not receiving invitations but still wanting to be part of the festivities. December might not be the best month for making significant changes in this regard, except for stepping out regularly and joining public celebrations. Taking regular walks and venturing outside is a routine that remains a good idea even in December, pushing you slightly out of your comfort zone.
Personally, I look forward to quiet moments and periods for reflection. Early morning or late-night walks, moments on the terrace with our cat, reading before bedtime – and trying not to focus too much on news and social media posts. The latter two always seem more frenzied in December than the rest of the year.
At the same time, I try to stick to my daily routine as much as possible. Even though it’s not always easy, especially during the ‘festive season’ (between December 20th and January 2nd), which disrupts many routines and habits. Stability and routine are more important to me than ever during this month.
December, more than the summer months of July and August, takes a toll on my mental health, as I’ve experienced throughout my life. I’m particularly sensitive to seasonal depression and weekend and holiday anxiety. Notably, December includes a high number of visits to therapists and support providers. Of course, I want them to enjoy the holiday season, but I also appreciate when they can spare some time because it serves as an anchor for me, preventing my anxiety and depression from escalating.
The most crucial lesson I’ve learned about this month over the years is something I constantly remind myself of, especially during tough times – it passes. There are also small victories and enjoyable moments to celebrate. December, especially its end, is the perfect time to celebrate the good things that have happened this year. Whether you write them down, paint them, speak them out loud, or create a year-end summary in your own way. Because one thing is certain, as you read this, you’re here, and as far as I’m concerned, you deserve to be here and stay.
The European Autist 